Love is not merely about sacrifice. It's also about becoming. It's about taking the behaviors that do not empower your relationship or partner & creating ones that do. It's not about simply eliminating/shrinking the ugly parts of yourself. It's about building more of your good. It's not about being ashamed of your truth but creating more truth you can be proud of.
I don't know if this applies to everyone or anyone but love has left me in shreds; it has forced me to examine the damage I've done & endured. It has stripped me & changed me, demanded more of me. It has even shamed me enough to ask, "How was I ever living that way before?" It has called me out on how gullible I've been. It has called me out on how lazy I've been. It has called me out of my former self into my higher self. All of these things have not been pretty, nor easy. But God bless the hands that held mine through the journey anyway.